There’s no better feeling, than hearing your significant other ask, “Will you marry me”? Your best friend, partner in crime and other half is asking to spend the rest of their life with you, that’s a powerful milestone! So many exciting thoughts, so many uplifting feelings; but in the craze, there’s always that one person, who blurts—“it’s about damn time!”
My fiancé Justin and I have been together for over four and a half years. Knowing that we wanted to eventually get married, sometimes I would wonder, what is he waiting for?! Every holiday, vacation, birthday, the question was always in the back of my mind. Each year, I noticed myself (Type A clearly) getting more and more anxious. Then I would wonder why isn’t it enough that I know we want to get married? Or that we have an extremely fun, healthy relationship? Practicality is my thing, so why was I beating myself up over this?
I realized it’s because whether we like it or not, outsiders can be quite influential. I noticed the longer we were together, everyone had questions- “Sooooo when you are two getting engaged” (eye roll, like I know?!), “You two have been together for such a long time, where’s the ring?” (Is four and a half years really that long?), “What’s he waiting for?” or my all-time favorite, “Do you think he’s afraid of commitment” (we’ve been together four and a half years, I don’t think so…). These comments were haunting and they made both of us very uncomfortable. I had no control in the situation and didn’t particularly enjoy “answering” those questions. Luckily, Justin has a great sense of humor and always had a witty response but I knew the amount of pressure he felt.
While anxiously awaiting the proposal, I found myself losing sight of the beauty in our day to day life together. It was a sad reality that I didn’t know how to change. However, at the end of the day I was dating an amazing person who never made me question his devotion. Then, one random Wednesday, after my first Pure Barre class, Justin got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. All sweaty and caught off guard, I burst into tears and nodded yes, I was incapable of forming words. I’m sure you can image the excitement.
It had finally happened, the moment I had been waiting for. Purely because marrying Justin was so important to me. And that’s when I realized, damn, I had invested so much time worrying about the, “when is it going to happen”? Looking back, I wish I hadn’t.
At the end of the day, everything happens just as it should. It’s all about staying true to yourself, remembering what is really important and not forgetting to enjoy the journey. I can confidently say it was well worth the wait.